Hello all. Today I pose a very important question about the influence of Facebook in the Online Dating world. I'm sure it is a pretty common occurrence. 2 people start talking via Match.com or Eharmony and then want to know more about each other, so they send a Facebook friend request and the flood gates open.
Like every sane person out there, I only put my best pictures up on Match.com. Because, lets be honest, a guy isn't winking at me solely because he likes what I wrote in my profile. I'm adult enough to admit that. Facebook on the other hand is private. Only my friends can see the stuff on there so hey...if I feel like posting a raging bitch status update or if someone tags me in an unattractive picture...whatever! And yes, like every other normal person on that stupid website, I have drunken pictures, pictures where I'm a sweaty mess, pictures that I look like a cow, pictures of me with my ex, pictures of me when I was much thinner, pictures when I was much fatter, etc. HOWEVER. One would assume that if the communication has progressed to the point of Facebook friend requests that there is a genuine interest in the person. But maybe not.
Facebook could be the exact reason someone decides they don't want to date you. And how sad is that?! Suddenly they see pictures they don't like...or they see that you like a band that they hate or maybe you party too much. Who knows. I guess you would not want to date that person anyways then but now you will never know because ultimately Facebook has turned them off to your existence. Now you will never meet. This has now happened to me twice in the past year. EMT is now #2. Admit-ably though...I have also used Facebook to rule people out... It's a thin line.
Facebook also seems to give people ammunition to stalk you are keeps tabs on you. (Cheeks Mcgee anyone?)
So, I'm vowing no more Facebook friends until AFTER we have met. You can make your own judgment about me in person BEFORE you judge my Facebook page. I think that is only fair. Besides...I have been told that I am much prettier in person. :o)